A Tiarra, A Girl & Iron Maiden

I had the privilege last weekend of being a judge at a teen pageant. Now I know you hear pageant & you think oh NO! beauty pageant = fake girls.  Not this pageant.. Scoring is based on poise, confidence, guts & authenticity. 

Three of my girlfriends were on the same panel with me and we called ourselves “Team Sunshine!”  We were committed to lifting up these young girls and helping them have a great experience.  

We were all so honored to interview some truly amazing young girls.  Some were scared, struggling with self-confidence, depression and anxiety disorders.  Others had overcome anorexia, being bullied and family tragedies. But the amazing part was they all opened their hearts to us. 

At lunch, we all paused, looked at each other and said what tremendous courage & beauty ALL these girls had! We felt so honored to be a part of something magical, that we could sense was beginning to happen. These girls won just by having the guts to show up! 

These brave young women made us laugh, some made us sing, some educated us and some choked us up.. then we met Charleigh.  She was one girls that we met that left an imprint on our heart.  She boldly shined her light and embraced who she truly is. Was she scared?  Yes.  Did she admit it? Yup.

She greeted us during her interview and told us she loves 80s metal rock and she is obsessed with Iron Maiden (flashing us the rock on sign)!  She had a style all her own and she owned it and emphasized it with a nervous giggle.

The day of the actual pageant she stayed true to herself.  She was honest, she was vulnerable and she was truly genuine to who she was.   She owned it.  She shined across the stage.  We all struggle with our brand, our style, our personality – some days I don’t know WHAT I AM DOING and I am 44 years old!  

Out of over 100 girls she placed in the top 20. She didn’t look like a typical pageant girl but she rocked! She is beautiful.  She is a role model.  She is brave.  She embraces her uniqueness and she deserved to tell her story.

So grab your invisible tiara, sing along to your favorite songs and attack every day!  Realize that what you add to the world each day CAN NOT be duplicated by anyone else!  No ONE is YOU!

Do you know a young girl that you could be a positive influence on and remind daily, weekly or monthly how unique and beautiful she truly is? DO IT! Let’s start changing the dialogue.. and give these young women the confidence to tell their stories.❤

But I’m wearing granny panties!

We’ve all had a day, especially that time of the month (you know what I’m talking about) OR you run out of the house so quickly, you don’t have time in the morning –  you just grab and go!  Before you know it (and your morning coffee starts kicking in) your day gets started and you realize you are wearing granny panties!

(compliments of RageOn!)

Not normally a big deal if nobody is seeing them throughout the day, BUT then you realize you have a fitting, you need a dress, you find yourself trying on bathing suit, running in for a waxing appointment, taking a yoga class after work and oh my GOSH!  EEeek! I’m wearing granny panties today! Well that is what happened to me this morning..

I went in for a massage.  It was “that time of the month” and my therapist usually has me wear shorts so he can stretch me during the massage. He greeted me and told me, “we are switching it up today,” then told me to disrobe as normal.  PANIC  hit me!  I looked at him, my eyes got really BIG and I said, “I can’t! I’m wearing granny panties today.”

So I went on a mission to find fashionable and comfortable granny panties because let’s face it, some days you have to wear them! It’s a necessity.  If you don’t there could be other types of embarrassing moments throughout the day (you know what I mean). But in doing my research, I found out NOW they are HIP (phew!):


So I set out to find some fashionable granny panties here’s what I found.

  1. This esty shop BIGBESTSALE is adorable
  2. Navy shorts from VANITY FAIR
  3. Bright colors from FRUIT OF THE LOOM
  4. Gorgeous lace from BARE NECESSITIES
  5. No argument here from these sexy finds at GARMENTORY


So when you’re husband, friend or partner makes fun of your granny panties, tell them you are HAPPY & HIP (and to just SHUT IT!)  The JOYS of being a woman..

Please share with me your granny pantie finds.. @michellebouse on social media.

The sun killed my Aunt

It’s been 10 years since the sun killed my aunt. Mary Katherine Grant was a successful 68-year-old career woman who was a respected top healthcare management consultant, traveled the world regularly, enjoyed golfing and loved spending time in the sun.

The latter is what took her life.

Suntan lotion woman with sunscreen solar cream

SKIN CANCER, is a silent killer & it took my aunt. My aunt was one of the estimated 10,710 people in 2006 who passed away as a result of skin cancer.

 We’ve heard it all before: Don’t talk to strangers, be careful when alone at night, smoking isn’t good for you… but never “the sun can kill you!” Our family, like thousands of other families, learned the hard way; it can. And now, with all the talk about the disappearing ozone layer and environmental/global warming, there is a desperate need for much more awareness of the dangers of the sun and skin cancer.
I wish my aunt had realized the dangers of the sun, before skin cancer cut her life short.
When we think of the effects of the sun’s rays on our skin, we usually think about the exposed areas of our bodies and our face. Those dreaded signs of aging we begin to see in our 30s, as well as the pain of a good sunburn, immediately come to mind. But the effects of the sun on the scalp are rarely considered, if at all.  This easily overlooked area of skin, hidden by a full head of hair, is where it started for my aunt..

After her hairdresser told her of a small, irregularly-shaped mole hidden by her hair, my aunt visited her dermatologist for a checkup. The news was grim: cancerous melanoma. After more visits to her dermatologist, and then many more skin experts, my aunt was diagnosed with STAGE 4 skin cancer – the final stage immediately before the terminal phase, Stage 5. There was little all those specialists could do. She had no previous symptoms. No pain. No weakness. My aunt felt great, looked even better and traveled the country weekly. But, she was rapidly dying.

After multiple surgeries over three years, various expensive medications and treatments, the cancer spread deeper into her skin and into the dermis. The specialists tried to stay ahead of the aggressive cancer by removing the cancerous areas, including a four inch by four inch plate of her scull, but by then the cancer had spread throughout her body. It attacked her lymph glands, her bone, her brain. She suffered a stroke that rendered her left side unusable. On a Wednesday afternoon, after packing up her office, my aunt took herself to the hospital complaining of a headache. She slipped into a coma. Three days later, my aunt died from a silent killer – that started from a small, almost unnoticed mole. She died from skin cancer.

My aunt was one of the estimated 10,710 people in 2006 who passed away as a result of skin cancer.


Once she was diagnosed, there was nothing I could do to help my aunt, but I can help my clients, others, and myself by bringing this subject to the forefront. As a professional esthetician, I make it my business to look and make suggestions to my clients. As well as suggesting regular, yearly body scans with a qualified dermatologist.  I can help in the prevention of skin cancer, one person at a time.

Don’t wait until your hairdresser finds a mole. Visit a qualified dermatologist today. They will check you for irregular skin conditions, and instruct you how to do the same at home. It could save your life. Make an appointment to see a dermatologist and have your entire body checked regularly. Learn the ABCD’s of melanoma and spread the word:

(A-Asymmetry, B-Border, C-Color, D-Diameter).

Awareness, education and early detection are our best defense. And most importantly, ALWAYS WEAR SUNSCREEN! (daily & year round)

For more information and to make a donation, please check out the skin cancer foundation at: www.skincancer.org  (feel free to share this with someone you love)

Chafed Thighs? 6 #SummerHacks 

It’s summer. It’s hot. You’re sweating. There’s moisture. Wearing less clothes and not being size “0”.  Don’t know about you but my thighs touch = summer struggle.. Red, burning chapped inner thighs.

Every time it’s warm or I’m warm (enter hormones) and I wear a skirt, shorts or dress my thighs are rubbed raw! Sound familiar?

Well these are the BEST hacks I’ve found. They work & can be fashionable!



  • Pretty underwear makes you feel sexy, these help chaffing too (I’m ordering these now!): http://amzn.to/29EHKIU



  • I used to wear biker shorts (these are the updated version), but now a days SPANX or BOXERS are more fashionable.


  • I use Monkey Butt for my doggies itches & it works GREAT but I didn’t know they had this too: http://amzn.to/29unEOe


So NEVER lose hope or heart.. there is always a BEAUTY HACK waiting to be shared.  Please let me know what you use and how it works for you!

Happy Summer Fun!

Michelle xo

Smart, Simple Suncare

Nowadays sun care products are smart! They aren’t just sunscreen, they can do more than one thing. I’m all for grabbing products that are multitaskers.

My moisturizer doesn’t contain sunscreen, that means I often forget to apply it.😦     I can only use Titanium Dioxide & Zinc (all natural) because all the chemical sunscreens make me break out. Up to now, I have always grabbed baby sunscreens. I was thrilled to find a tinted sunscreen! I love tinted moisturizer, so rocked my world.  It also is a wonderful make-up primer, light foundation and sunscreen all-in-one.

What if I told you I found one that also has peptides in it. So not only does it protect, it reverses damage and prevents future damage all at the same time. I love mineral based sunscreens!  Have you tried them yet?


Grabbing mineral make-up and applying it later in the day, adds additional sunscreen protection. YES, you read that correctly..  Join me for my #5daychallenge (#summerskinprep) over on my Facebook Page and start prepping your skin for the summer. Let’s prep it, treat it, get it healthy and prevent damage this summer!

Here are two of my favorite summer DIY recipes for a cleanser & scrub that will brighten, hydrate & tone your face when used regularly once a week. Continue using all the #5daychallenge tips throughout the summer and your skin with thank you in the fall!  I look forward to chatting with you soon..  Michelle xoxo

Power picks 4 Confidence (my SuperPowers)

What are you special accessories that make you feel extra special? That activate your Super Powers?

Bright Lip, Heels, & Polished Nails are my “go tos” whenever I have to present, make a speech or represent an organization (or have a “put my foot down” meeting).

I think it goes back to my dancing days.  I was tall and cast as a showgirl alot.. I always felt so elegant on stage with my sparkles, makeup & heels.

I taught ballroom for 8 hours (a day) in heels and dancing in NYC in the 1990s was all Broadway style heels (minimum 2 inches).  Plus you NEVER showed up at an audition without lipstick!

There is something about the way heels elongate my stride, posture & confidence.  But add a bright lip, especially on days where I’m feeling a bit tired and BAM!

Here’s my story from a few weeks ago.. (via Periscope: michellebouse)


I would love to hear your secret picks to activate your SuperPowers!  (don’t worry I won’t tell)😉


New Year, Let’s get real!

There is nothing like browsing gorgeous pictures online or in magazines, especially during award season. I want. I wish. I wonder. Sigh..

Having a makeup artist, hairstylist, great lighting and photoshop editors makes EVERYONE look great – trust me, I KNOW. At the start or end of my day, I don’t even come close to seeing a semblance in my mirror. Do you?

I hate to be Debbie Downer, but those people in the photos aren’t recognizable in their mirror at home after the event – once everything is off.  Good news: They are just as normal as you and I – only they have a BEAUTY TRIBE.

So it’s a new year.. I want to help you with real beauty concerns, questions & frustrations.  I want to give you real solutions, hope and inspiration!  So let’s GET REAL! Who’s with me?


Here is your first Beauty “TO DO” for 2016.. schedule in #MeTime this year & regularly!  Whatever you have to do; add it to your calendar, phone, schedule an alarm or  stratigically place sticky notes DO IT & be consistent!  Here’s list to help start you off.

I will be back with more TO DOs for YOU and your perfectly, perfect (and annoying) imperfections!  Together we will GET REAL and feel more BEAUTIFUL by the end of 2016..  Cheers!!!  ~Michelle

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