Why I mentor kids

A dear friend asked my recently, “Why did you get started volunteering/mentoring kids?” I thought for a second.. that answer needs conversation over a cup of coffee..

My initial answer is LOVE. My heart is my greatest asset & greatest weakness. Part of the reason I’m on this earth is to love others & share unconditional love. I’ve been blessed to understand the true meaning of love, its purpose and experience many shades of love. We NEED love to survive.

I grew up an only child. I was loved. I was shown great love and taught about the importance of loving others. When I hit my 30s, it hit me hard!  I finally understood one of my purposes on this earth.. loving others (hard) especially kids in need.

I love kids, I have always loved kids and always found myself teaching kids. When my husband and I decided not to have kids of our own, I told him I wanted to volunteer. My decision not to be a mom helped me realize I wanted to be involved in possibly helping 1 or more kids that could use some extra love.

In 2009, I started volunteering with the Boys & Girls Club of Burbank. I started a broadway dance class, tap classes & a performance/competition dance team. They won multiple awards & trips all across the country to perform. I can only hope I left them with love in their hearts & memories they will remember for a lifetime.

In 2016, I heard about a program called Kids Hope at my church. It’s one child, one mentor, one hour, one day a week. I was thinking about trying a one-on-one relationship in the future, but I knew I had to do this when I started crying watching the promo video.

For the past 3 years, I have had the privilege of mentoring 2 young boys that have taught me as much as I’ve taught them. Sharing my heart with kids in need have created some of the most fulfilling moments of my life. When they lean in and whisper in my ear, “I love you Miss Michelle..” or randomly grab my hand to hold.. (you know little boys – this is HUGE) it’s just makes my heart explode!

I want to make a difference in people’s lives. I am willing to stand in the gap for anyone that needs me. When any kid, teen or adult (who am I kidding), sees me and comes running for a hug, sends me a text from college, wants to sit down for advice, giggles or laughs uncontrollably because of what I did or said.. that’s why I mentor.  I have to.. my heart NEEDS to share LOVE!  (It’s why I’m here).

Michelle xo

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Are YOU a LAZY SPF applier? (I am)

Confession:  I often forget to apply sunscreen.. eeeekkkkk!

Is this you?

I just walked my dog and remembered, I didn’t apply ANYTHING to my face today.  I think I just burned the back of my neck (smacking my head right now)!  It is my day off but NO EXCUSE!   I work on skin ALL day, I ask everyone if they are using SFP daily, I am starting to see spots on my face more & more from my teenage burns.. WHAT IS MY PROBLEM?  SUN is the quickest way to speed AGING up.. I KNOW THIS.. I preach this.. I believe this!

Let’s keep it simple.  I need to heed my own advice:

1.  Apply your moisturizer to clean skin in the morning.  Allow the product to absorb into your skin, this way your skin is less likely to want to absorb all the sunscreen into your pores, ultimately clogging them.

2. ApplySPF to your face (which I skip) and ALSO to your neck and chest (which I do).  Your neck and chest are the tell tale signs of your age.  They are always forgotten, but always exposed.  Apply to BOTH.

3. (Ladies) As a final step after you have finished doing your make-up, apply a mineral make-up with a fluffy round brush all over your face, neck & chest.  Mineral make-up contains ZINC & Titanium Dioxide which are both natural sunscreens (just like Baby sunscreens)  Applying “powdered” SPF (mineral powders) is a great re-application product throughout your day.  They lay on top of the skin and don’t have a tendency to clog pores from absorption (like some over the counter sunscreens can do).

4.  If you are outside all day, you should re-apply.  It doesn’t last all day long (even 100 SPF) especially after swimming, sweating or working.

That seems easy enough.. why can’t I remember to do it?

Baz Luhrmann said it BEST: “Always Wear Sunscreen!”

While you are spreading sunshine throughout your day, also remember to apply sunscreen. (I need to copy and paste that to my bathroom mirror ASAP).  It’s the easiest way to slow the “beauty” aging process.

Need another reason?  My aunt died because of skin cancer.. read her story here.

2 Oscar makeup picks & tricks

Guilty pleasure? Completely forgot? Purposely avoided?  Did you watch the Oscars this year?  Are you wondering how everyone looked so fresh & glowing (especially when they start getting ready early afternoon & arrive by 3pm PST) all night?

These 2 picks are magical tools for their makeup lasting & the glow looking fresh – All Night/Day Long! 😉

(watch video here)

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Not only does it look great on the red carpet, it’s the perfect duo to spruce up your makeup bag for SPRING! (insert happy song here) shop here

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So who has questions for SPRING makeup picks?  Here’s to bringing the daily glow from the inside to the outside.  Remember, YOU are Beauty- FULL!

~Michelle xo

A Giggle-fest Inspired by Aromas

Who would think aromatherapy could make you loopy?  Well it can, and it did.. during my first series of Aromatherapy & Herbal workshops last month and not only did everyone leave inspired, educated & relaxed.. we were all giddy & goofy.

I use a variety of essential oils (I’m not brand specific) and I wanted to inspire the guests to start the year off right with intention and wellness. We started by writing down our word of the year and circling it in words of how we wanted to feel (or the opposite of what we didn’t like about last year).  Then I helped each guest choose 3 oils that have an infinity for those intentions.

I also added a hidden oil for the guest according to what I thought would supercharge the synergy of the blend. (this is always my favorite part)

We drank herbal tea, talked about incorporating herbs into recipes & diet and specifically one great “go to” for eliminating stress throughout our days. (More on “why” you should carry Rescue Remedy daily).

As we began to make our roller blends I use my aromatherapy education, certification, favorite reference books and 80% of my intuition. (My blending methods are unique, I’ll share more on that later). All of a sudden we are smelling oils, creating blends and people start dropping things, spilling things, knocking things over (I’m a totally non-A type personality.. hello artist.. so no worries) and we all just start laughing. We laughed off and on for the last 20 mins.

“Laughter is the BEST medicine!”

As everyone was leaving with goodie bags & blends in hand they were so much lighter than when they arrived and I swear I could heard their laughter as the walked to their cars.

Do you use aromatherapy regularly? The last Saturday of each month I will be holding workshops to help you navigate your aromatic journey, share my education for using oils safely & some of my favorite oils, herbs & teas.

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Seating is always limited.. you can purchase a ticket for my next workshop here:

Or if you are not local you can purchase your own custom “Soul” Blend here and we will create one together and I will ship it directly to you ($25 + free shipping).

Let me know your funniest experience with aromatherapy.. Just because it’s good for you doesn’t mean it can’t be FUN!

It’s A New Year.. What Makes YOU Fierce?

It’s a new year and one of my favorite words is FIERCE!  It ignites my passion.. my desire to be strong.. my wish to be fearless.. my ambition to persevere and my goals of being unforgettable!

A year ago in February, my Grama passed away.  We were very close & I loved her with all my heart.  She was one of my most special people: my cheerleader, my mom, my voice of reason, my greatest sounding board and LOVED to watch me dance!  While I was back East for her funeral I stumbled upon a ballroom dance studio I had NO IDEA existed a few blocks from my home in LA.  I contacted them while in NJ (I swear Grama sent me to them) and the rest is history.. I fell back in love with dancing because of the owners Katie & Erick (below) and the wonderful instructors (the events & other students are just a bonus).

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I started dancing at 10 yrs old.  I taught, performed & competed all throughout school.  I turned professional at the age of 19 and continued my career until 26.  I taught ballroom at a Fred Astaire studio from 22-24 yrs old.  I lived my dream of being a dancer and performing professionally all over the country.  But I hadn’t ballroom danced in about 15 years (even just for fun).

Dancing has ALWAYS been my heart, my love, my joy, my passion.

When I retired I couldn’t figure out how to enjoy it for fun.. so I gave it up.

Last February I walked into the studio (shaking & heart pounding – thinking WHAT AM I DOING? I can’t do this anymore!) I was greeted by one of the sweetest guys I have ever had the pleasure of meeting (or dancing with) and I haven’t stopped smiling yet!   In a year I have lost 25 pounds.. bought a dozen glittering gowns.. danced & sung more songs then I can remember, laughed uncontrollably (while dancing), felt like a princess (more than once) and entered my first EVER competition in December.

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I am FIERCE!  I am having the time of my life.. inspiring others to dare to try something new.. sharing my joy, reminding others talent SHOULD be shared and hoping to become awesome in TANGO (my worst dance, in my mind) by this years end.  I am  not giving up!  I have over done it and injured myself multiple times last year.  But I’ve kept going. I can’t remember as much as I would like to or as quickly as I used to, BUT I AM FIERCE.  I feel good.  I’m graceful.  I’m happy.  I’m taking chances.  I’m NOT giving up!

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What is it that you would LOVE to try this year?  What lights a spark in your heart? What do you do and no matter how hard you try, you can’t stop smiling (this is a problem for my TANGO).  Do that!  Try that!  If it scares you a little, it means there is a WONDERFUL treasure awaiting you on the other side.. it’s wrapped in a gorgeous package with a tag on it with YOUR name.. “YOU ARE FIERCE“.. It’s just waiting to be opened.. discovered.. shared.. and ONLY YOU can unwrap it!

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Remember, DON’T let anyone or anything STOP you.. especially when you soul is whispering to you.. listen to it!  It’s usually IMPORTANT.

Please share your adventures & journey with me!  I can’t wait to hear what makes YOU FIERCE!(because you are)

Love = Self Care

What have you done this month for YOU?  With the overwhelming theme of Valentine’s Day, I always focus on one thing each year:  Self Care.

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We are ALL superstars, multi-tasking our days, evenings & weekends.  There is too much distraction with all media, especially social media.. so any time left over can QUICKLY evaporate.  Do you make time for yourself?  It doesn’t have to be an ENTIRE day.  What about an “un-plugged” walk during the day or at lunchtime?  A bath in the evening.. 10-30 mins of READING a book?  Lathering or coating yourself in something that indulges your senses?  A light aromatic spritz on your pillow before sleep.. a piece of dark chocolate and your favorite cup of _________?  Drawing, journaling, praying, singing, exercising, creating or calling a friend.. A nap? A day off? Binge watching a movie/tv series.. the ideas go on and on.  The question is.. DO YOU take time to do any of it?

Listen carefully.. YOU NEED TO!  It’s vital to your health & beauty. 


I put together a printable for FEBRUARY but you can use it any month.. what do you like/love about yourself?  WRITE IT DOWN  How do you REST? Do you have ME time daily & how? Regular RAKs? WRITE THEM DOWN

I loved this journaling prompt sheet from Life of Lovely:

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When you are super awesome you are giving and serving others in multiple ways, it is VITAL to find ways to “re-fill” yourself back up or you will find yourself sick, tired or both and feeling less than you.  These are things that fill me back up..  a easy DIYs.

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Tell me how you “re-fill” below and please share this with a friend.. This is a year long “to do” and I’ll be back checking in on how you are doing.. with love, Michelle xo

A Tiarra, A Girl & Iron Maiden

I had the privilege last weekend of being a judge at a teen pageant. Now I know you hear pageant & you think oh NO! beauty pageant = fake girls.  Not this pageant.. Scoring is based on poise, confidence, guts & authenticity. 

Three of my girlfriends were on the same panel with me and we called ourselves “Team Sunshine!”  We were committed to lifting up these young girls and helping them have a great experience.  

We were all so honored to interview some truly amazing young girls.  Some were scared, struggling with self-confidence, depression and anxiety disorders.  Others had overcome anorexia, being bullied and family tragedies. But the amazing part was they all opened their hearts to us. 

At lunch, we all paused, looked at each other and said what tremendous courage & beauty ALL these girls had! We felt so honored to be a part of something magical, that we could sense was beginning to happen. These girls won just by having the guts to show up! 

These brave young women made us laugh, some made us sing, some educated us and some choked us up.. then we met Charleigh.  She was one girls that we met that left an imprint on our heart.  She boldly shined her light and embraced who she truly is. Was she scared?  Yes.  Did she admit it? Yup.


She greeted us during her interview and told us she loves 80s metal rock and she is obsessed with Iron Maiden (flashing us the rock on sign)!  She had a style all her own and she owned it and emphasized it with a nervous giggle.

The day of the actual pageant she stayed true to herself.  She was honest, she was vulnerable and she was truly genuine to who she was.   She owned it.  She shined across the stage.  We all struggle with our brand, our style, our personality – some days I don’t know WHAT I AM DOING and I am 44 years old!  

Out of over 100 girls she placed in the top 20. She didn’t look like a typical pageant girl but she rocked! She is beautiful.  She is a role model.  She is brave.  She embraces her uniqueness and she deserved to tell her story.

So grab your invisible tiara, sing along to your favorite songs and attack every day!  Realize that what you add to the world each day CAN NOT be duplicated by anyone else!  No ONE is YOU!


Do you know a young girl that you could be a positive influence on and remind daily, weekly or monthly how unique and beautiful she truly is? DO IT! Let’s start changing the dialogue.. and give these young women the confidence to tell their stories. ❤